A Knitting Dilemma

The past couple of months, I have been doing a lot of gift knitting, and most of the recipients have been thrilled to received them (just had a co-worker show off the socks I knitted for her saying they were the warmest socks she ever had).  But, what do you do when asked to knit something for someone, and you don’t even get an acknowledgement that the package you mailed to them arrived?  How hard is to it just sent a text or a PM on Facebook that says, “Got the _____ in the mail today.  Thank you.” ?

I have knitted some beautiful items for two people (one of whom asked for said item) and I had to ask one of them (three weeks after I mailed it to them) if they received it (I got a “Yes, I got it. Thanks.”) and the other one I heard from a third party that the package got there.  I am told they both loved their gifts, but I have to admit that it is very hard to knit other things for them when they can’t take the time to let me know that said gift even got to them.

I am knitting another gift for one of them, and I will admit that I am having a hard time finishing it because I don’t know that it will be appreciated, much less even acknowledged.  This person does not know it is coming.  Should I just not send it and gift it to someone else who will appreciate it and who always lets me know that they got it and love it?  Do I write the said two people off as being not knit-worthy, even if they are family?  I mean, the items I made them were from the softest wool, not cheap acrylic, and took some time and effort on my part.

And that is my dilemma.  Should I or shouldn’t I?  Part of me thinks they will come back and say “You always knit stuff for others, but how come I don’t get stuff, too?”  In a way, I hope this happens because I’d love to tell them, “Well, because I hear from the others that the gift arrived and that they like and wear said stuff.  I never heard from you on the things I sent to you, so why should I continue sending you things that you won’t even acknowledge receiving?”

I hope I am not sounding petty on this.  All I want, really, is a quick note saying that the gift arrived safely and a simple thank you for it.  Is that asking too much?

4 Responses

  1. Cindie Says:

    I feel ya. I have the same issue with some of my family. Funny thing is that friends I knit or weave for always thank me…..with family I know something has arrived when mailed but never a thank you. So, I’ve cut way back on what I make for certain members of the family. It’s sad.

  2. Cheryl Says:

    I totally understand your situation. So, I don’t think you’re being petty at all. A lot of time and love go into making gifts for people. Acknowledgement and appreciation are very little to ask for in return. I’ve stopped making gifts for some family members and I’ve become very selective on anyone I make something for. That leaves more time for making things for people who do appreciate these special gifts and for making things for yourself.

  3. Stephanie Says:

    A lot of people really don’t understand the effort and time involved in handmade gifts. I would tend to agree that if they don’t appreciate it enough to acknowledge it there is no point in continuing making things for them. It is easier (and probably less expensive) to just buy them a gift. But don’t be resentful. It is not worth bothering with. Just keep in mind that people can change – perhaps when they starting making things themselves they will understand.

  4. May Olson Says:

    Some people have no idea about knitting weaving and crochet. I know. I am very careful now to do up items that I know the recipient is knit worthy. My Grans scarf I wove for her was on the garage floor. Err I wasn’t emotional nor did I say a word but picked it up and brought it home with me. I am still wondering if she noticed it has disappeared! Ha ha. Obviously not. I get the feeling that some people say yes to handmades as to not hurt our feelings. I am way passed hurt feelings at my stage of life.Be well Benita. Oh I gave a shout out to Tinypaperfoxes Youtube on your spinning abilities. Devon is a new spinner. I think you are the perfect teacher. If you don’t hear from them then maybe you can offer some help. They hadn’t discovered you yet which is a big loss for them in my opinion!

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